Genesis 2:22-25 Marriage

Knowing what you do about marriage if you had the opportunity to go back and do it all over again would you?  Do you find your marriage fulfilling?  Is there something missing but you just can’t seem to figure it out?  God has the answers for you.  We are going to do a few weeks on the marriage relationship.  This is how marriage starts.

1. Marriage was instituted before sin entered the world

   a. you do not have to be a believer to have a happy marriage

   b. as believers in Christ you should have a happy marriage

   c. no one will have a good happy marriage without work

   c. doing things God’s way is the best

2. God made Eve from the rib of Adam

  a. God brought Eve back to Adam to be united with him

  b. notice the order in verse 24 separation from parents, united together then they become one flesh

  c. this should happen real close together but it doesn’t always

3. becoming one flesh is more than the sexual union

  a. it is a physical and emotional bonding

  b. it doesn’t happen over night and it takes a lot of work

4. this will never happen until there is a separation from parents

  a. parents can be an asset to your marriage or a hindrance

  b. a parent is to raise up a child to be a mature adult capable of living on their own

  c. a family I know –parents and 2 married daughters lived close to each other and another daughter divorced and wild

  d. when one decide to move it was a family decision and all 3 household move

  e  this happened 3 or 4 times ; the last I heard one daughter is divorce the other is living several states away from her husband

   f. Christians yes but they never cut the cord from mommy and daddy

5. Our kids still ask Linda and I advise- but we try very hard not to speak until asked

  a. they are married- if your married child says I want to come home the answer is – unless there is physical abuse- you are home learn to work it out

  b. in our conversations we speak of what our child is doing & the outcome never ever do we say a word against  their spouse

  c. We raised our children to function as adults I can’t & won’t live their life for them

  d. we sought to model what a Christian marriage should be

  e. in spite of all our mistakes I am very proud of  how our children turned out

6. In a marriage we are to be united

  a. my goals my dreams and Linda’s should be unified

  b. we are to have one focus

  c. this does not mean we see everything exactly the same

  d. actually we see things quite different- that can make things real interesting

7.  when God took Eve out of Adam his emotional makeup changed

  a. women are different emotionally from men this is good

  b. women are more nurturing, men are more aggressive etc.

  c. then add on to that out gifts and talents are not the same-we are opposites

  d. Linda makes lists I would rather wing it

8.  Consider your spouse they probably are not like you

  a. opposites to attract- by God’s design, Linda compliments my life

  b. the areas I lack she makes up for, what she lacks I make up for

  c. if we were the same our strengths would double but so would our weaknesses

A marriage is a man and a woman who have physically and emotionally left home.  They have united together with the same goals and purpose in life.  When these 2 things happen then you can become one flesh as God designed.  Therein lies the key to a fulfilling marriage.